My Big Day follows a number of event sites and wedding blogs to keep up on the latest trends. One trend (or common theme) that just isn't going away is friend envy.
If you've ever had a BIG DAY or life event centered around you, perhaps you have experienced this sad phenomenon. It's said that those closest to you can hurt you the most. We see this time and time again... someone gets engaged, has a baby, gets a work promotion, etc... and all of the sudden ONE of your friends acts out. They are rude, try to one-up you, ruin a surprise, or just spoil something for you.
Who needs a friend like that?!? Not you.
The photo below is the best visual I've seen in a while of a friend showing her lack of support for her 3 close girlfriends who all got engaged. Funny, yes. But also hurtful.
As an event planner for 16+ years, I've personally seen lots of bridesmaids gone bad, mothers who ruin surprises, family members who can't control themselves or set aside past issues for ONE day of celebrating their loved one/s, co-workers stealing thunder, exes showing up unannounced, the list goes on...
We even experience it as owners of a small business. There will always be people in your life who love and support you, and then there are the rare few who don't like to see you succeed.
When you hire My Big Day Events, you are hiring your own, personal advocate. Our #1 job is to make your BIG DAY the most memorable day of your life, and to help buffer those with friend envy from ruining your moment.
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Have you ever struggled with figuring out what necklace looks good with the neckline of your dress, blouse, etc?
My Big Day has seen a lot of bad necklace choices for wedding dress necklines that fight with the jewelry.
Thankfully our friends at Charming Charlie came up with a helpful neckline cheat sheet! Now accessorizing is a breeze!
See their helpful neckline cheat sheet below.
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My Big Day realizes that when planning an event, you often have many venues to choose from! When interviewing a venue, we can often forget to ask enough questions, or the same questions from each venue.
Below you'll find a list of all the questions you'll need when interviewing your potential event space.
Should you need a customized spreadsheet to help you with all the items that are a priority to YOU, just CONTACT US!
Feel free to download our helpful list of questions below.
Whether you are planning a corporate event, a baby shower, a bridal shower, a birthday party, or a wedding... you have a number of vendors out there to choose from. How to you pick?
While referrals are great, how to you widen your options, and easily narrow down the vendors who you'll trust to pull your event off with grace?
You do your research
You ask them carefully prepared questions
You go with your gut!
Here Are The Top 10 Things You Should Consider When Interviewing Vendors:
1. Will the vendor commit to your budget and not push you in the direction of things you simply can't afford?
2. Will the vendor pay attention to the smallest of details? Are they prompt and articulate? (You can gage these things by their promptness in returning phone calls and emails, showing up for your meetings early or on time, and by giving you more information that you even asked for)
3. Can the vendor give you thoughtful and original ideas, showing that they are not only invested in their industry, but experienced?
4. Is the vendor familiar with multiple florists, photographers, caterers, planners, bands, and DJs in your price range? Can he/she explain their strongpoints to you briefly?
5. Can the vendor score you some discounts with any other vendors, help you negotiate pricing, or in the least, speak of general pricing for other vendors in the industry to help you with your negotiations?
6. Is the vendor legit? Do they have a website, a Facebook page, a Pinterest page, etc? Can you find reviews about their company online? Can they give you a list of referrals?
7. Can the vendor counsel you on industry etiquette matters and speak to hot trends on the horizon?
8. For the day of the event, can the vendor commit to working with only YOU (not juggling multiple clients)?
9. Will the vendor act as your advocate, conveying your visions and desires to others when you don't feel up to the task?
10. PASSION. Does the vendor have it? If you ask them about their favorite part of their job, do their eyes light up? If you ask them to tell you about why they got into the industry, do they have a compelling story they love to tell? If they can’t tell you why they love their job, will they put passion into your Big Day? Probably not.
Note: A professional should have plenty of questions for YOU too. They should easily be able to determine your wishes, needs, level of maintenance, budget, scope of imagination, and more!
If you are planning an event or wedding, you may be wondering if you need a planner or coordinator to help with your Big Day. Should you need some help figuring out what an event planner really does, perhaps the list below will help!
My Big Day Events presents,
The Top Ten Reasons to Hire a Wedding Planner
Quite often we get the question, how much should I tip my vendors? Honestly, tipping suggestions vary from person to person, and expert to expert.
Based on our research, and years of event experience, here is what we recommend. Be sure to download our handy tipping sheet for future reference!
My Big Day Guide to:
Tipping Vendors and Weddings and Events
Tips are never expected, but always appreciated. Tips are meant solely as an expression of appreciation for especially good service. Unless the service provided was less than satisfactory, it is customary to show your gratitude by tipping many of the people involved in making your event a success.
My Big Day Tipping Tips:
Check Your Contracts & Agreements
Many gratuities are built into quotes for major items, such as, catering. This will appear as a ‘Service Fee,’ a ‘Service Charge,’ or any amount that is approximately 15 - 20% of the total contract. Read your contract carefully to avoid unnecessarily double-tipping.
Don’t Tip the Venue /Owners
If your photographer owns the studio, there’s no need to tip them. The same goes for bands not booked through an agency, the owner of a wedding venue, and the beauty-shop owner who does your hair.
Reward Extraordinary Service
Beyond the customary tips, when someone goes out of their way for you―the DJ digs up that old recording that will make your Grammy misty-eyed… the florist finds you that rare flower not in season… the event planner goes above and beyond adding little touches not contracted, etc… consider thanking them with a gift certificate, a bottle of wine, or another thoughtful token.
Put Someone in Charge
Assign someone you can rely on… one of the fathers, the best man, your super-organized maid of honor - to hand out envelopes with the non-contract tips in cash, either at the time of service (hair and makeup people), at the end of the wedding (which allows you to adjust the size of the tips to reflect the service), or at the beginning.
Simple Tip Chart:
Bartenders: 10 percent of the total liquor bill (to be split among them)
Band or DJ: $20 - $25 per musician; $50 - $150 for DJs
Photographer/videographer: If you’re paying a flat fee with no overtime, $100
Catering manager: $200+ or a personal gift
Makeup artist: 15 to 20 percent
Event/Wedding planner: 15 – 20 percent of fee
Hairstylist: 15 to 20 percent
Waiters: $20 and up each (distributed by the catering manager or maitre d’)
Wedding Musicians: 15 percent of fee for ceremony musicians; $22 to $25 per musician for reception
Delivery Staff: Cake, Flowers, Rentals, Etc. $5 to $10 per person
Bathroom attendants: $1 to $2 per guest
Coat check attendants: $1 to $2 per guest
Hotel chambermaids: $2 to $5 per room; $10 to $15 if you used a suite as your dressing room
Limo or bus drivers: 15 percent
Valet or parking attendants: $1 to $2 per car; 15 percent for valet parking
Maitre d’hotel or headwaiter: 1 to 3 percent of food and beverage fees
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